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I am confused
by dragonTaboo (dragontaboo)
at October 28th, 2008 (03:43 pm)
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Erotica the truth is a blur

I confess that I like to write and read erotica. I submit my writings to the internet to get them to have reviews. I want to get better at writing and I can write easily with my erotic thoughts. I don't really think it is a problem since it is made up. It is not like I am looking at nude pictures and even though my writings are explicit the bible, from my point of view does not say anything against it. I want to know more about what is lust since my mom and I have two totally different points of view of what lust is.

 

I masturbate to my writings and masturbate in general. It not only helps me sleep but relieves stress. My girlfriend problems don’t bother me as much as they use to. I am able to express my sorrow in the stories that I write. The chaos that surrounds the characters has little to no effect on their ability to get to the next day.

 

I write about dragons and other creatures coming together to put their differences aside and fight the evil that creates war. I am writing a book with the main character is a dragon named Timothy not so different than the Timothy in the bible. I want to be able to create realism and to be able to make the book romantic. I don’t know how to do that without showing how love can bring a group together and Timothy and his girlfriend gets married and enjoys a great love life despite the chaos that takes place around them. I don’t know how far is too far in writing erotica and what God considers to be sinful in this activity.  

 

  Twilight saga is a good example; Edward and Isabella are married when they have sex so what would be wrong in reading or writing erotica? My friends at church have read the whole book series and loved it.

by bluebedroom (bluebedroom)
at January 17th, 2008 (04:19 pm)

How is everyone doing? Haven't heard from many of you for awhile!

Male Lust & the Objectification of Women Book
by apeiron_gaia (apeiron_gaia)
at September 6th, 2006 (10:30 am)

Could someone recommend a good book on male lust and its objectification of women?

I have heard a male person in my life say, "I have nothing against lust. I think lust is wonderful." He sees that, since conservative Christians find it wrong, then it must surely be right and liberating.

I need a book that explains that, while for men it may seem liberating, feeding male lust contributes to a much larger paradigm of oppression.

Using Nearly Nude Pictures, Child Sex Sites Test Laws
by bluebedroom (bluebedroom)
at August 20th, 2006 (12:58 pm)


Using Nearly Nude Pictures, Child Sex Sites Test Laws
By KURT EICHENWALD
Published: August 20, 2006
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/08/20/business/20model.html?pagewanted=1

Links Concerning Pornography
by bluebedroom (bluebedroom)
at July 21st, 2006 (07:24 pm)

I'm searching for sites dealing with the subject of pornography, particularly anti-porn (but either really, since it's good to read up on both "sides"). I'm trying to compile a more comprehensive list for this community, since it's currently scarce.

Please share the best you've found! It will be a good reference for all of us.

Thanks!   :)

The Culture of Pornography & Committment Phobia
by bluebedroom (bluebedroom)

Someone suggested I read this article, so I have provided some excerpts which I thought we might discuss. You're free to read the rest of the article, which is based in Catholicism. I hope that as a community (no doubt based in a variety of faiths and worldviews) that we are free to discuss religious (and non-religious) based texts concerning pornography...to examine this subject, pornography, without becoming divisive over gradations of faith. I feel that any resource concerning pornography will provide insight into the subject and foster a more well-rounded perspective.

http://www.catholic.org/featured/headline.php?ID=1616

Excerpts:

So the man who begins a fantasy sexual life in his early adolescence, as so many men of today have, with the use of soft-core pornography, such as Playboy magazines, gets a habit deeply ingrained in his psyche linking a false idea of female perfection with an ideal fantasy harem. None of the members of his fantasy harem has any qualms about his fantasizing about another woman, and even seem to approve, because that is all the woman’s eyes in those photographs ever communicates. She is all approving, all understanding, and lovingly naked—for him. His stable of concubines is a big happy family who exist all and just for him. If one has rounder breasts, or another a cuter face, or another a firmer derriere no one minds! No one gets hurt or jealous. Hence he is free to always search for that more perfect woman—each month. But always has the old ones to fall back on and they never mind.

Now, translate this mindset, firmly formed, and deeply linked to this man’s patterns of needs into the real world of real women and real love affairs. At first he is all hearts and flowers, candy, cards, presents, dinner and dancing, until she starts to like it and believes he really cares for her—and he does. But can he commit to just one? To her alone? Or is he always scanning the horizon for something (as opposed to someone) “better”? Is he capable of truly loving a woman or merely addicted to adolescent romantic fantasy linked to sexual gratification—which is now unquenchable by one woman?

He will weep with sincere frustration that she can’t tolerate his desire for more and others. He is accustomed to the unquestioning sweetness and acceptance of his paper harem, and genuinely can’t understand himself, and feels guilt over the sense that he is using this real live woman, unconscious though it may be, in the same way. She’s fed up, he’s in terror, facing more rejection, shame, and terrible loneliness, doesn’t know what happened, and can’t help himself.

We are whole beings, and our sexuality cannot be split off from the rest of our instincts for permanence, love, and family, for the sake of temporary pleasure without tragic results—anymore than the procreative aspect can be split off from the unitive aspect of our sexuality without damaging that very union. A fragmented self cannot commit, much less give.

just a reminder
by bluebedroom (bluebedroom)
at June 9th, 2006 (08:50 pm)

Hello everyone--

This is just a little "FYI" that exists in the community info, but I thought I'd reiterate here:

If you want your posts to stay inside the community (i.e. only members can read them), make sure you mark them as "friends only." If you don't mind who reads them, that's fine also.

For those of you who lurk in the community...  ;)  ...and have added it to your community friends list but haven't joined, remember that you may be missing out on being able to read "friends only" posts or participating in the conversation. So come on inside! I'm sure you have great thoughts to share on this subject and we would love to hear from you.

That is all. Carry on.

:)

Nessa lives here [userpic]
This makes me mad
by Nessa lives here (nessasplace)
at June 8th, 2006 (03:46 pm)

littleredkitten [userpic]
i have to let something out.
by littleredkitten (littleredkitten)
at May 17th, 2006 (06:33 pm)

it's been festering inside me for weeks now. since this will be pure emotion, i don't know how coherent this will be, but i expect it to be profane, and i also will talk blatently about my sex life. i'm sorry if this offends anyone, it's just how i'm feeling right now.
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Aliz

The Beauty Myth
by Sarah (sarah_hazelnut)
at February 3rd, 2006 (03:08 pm)

It's likely this article has already made the rounds, but I've not yet seen it in an lj community. The more conservative readers might disagree with certain points. Overall, it's definitely worth reading.

http://www.wesleyan.edu/synthesis/culture-cubed/cashman/was_research.html

I have to say, I'm very impressed by the grace and insight within this group, it's members, and it's moderators. I feel safe here. Thank you for creating this place.

Links
by bluebedroom (bluebedroom)

- Links -

The information provided by any site whose link appears in this community does not necessarily reflect the entirety of views held by individual members of this community. The links are provided for their relevance to the topics of pornography and sexual addictions only.

Feel free to suggest additional links by replying to this post.

A link to this list is available on the community information page.

Blogs
     Porn War

Consumerism
     Clean Hotels

Faith-Based
Christian, general
     New Life Partners
     Porn-Free
     Porn War (blog) (agnostic/atheist friendly)
     Pure Life Ministries
     Pure Online
     Sexual Purity
     Fact Sheet, Pornography
Latter Day Saints
     Church Publications
     Help for Users
     Pornography's Effects
     Preventing Pornography Problems

General
One Angry Girl
     AntiPorn Disclaimer
Porn Destroys Women
XXX Church

Help
No-Porn
Recovery Nation
Sexual Addiction Recovery Resources

Information
FAQs from Mental Health Library

fell again
by christ4life500 (christ4life500)
at January 4th, 2006 (12:28 am)

so i called earthlink today to cancel myinternet provider and the guy was like the internet is free until march 7, 2006 and i told my mom that and she really liked the idea so i said forget about cancceling theinternet. Then after i hung up i felt really bad so i told my mom that it's not a good idea for me to have the internet because it's a distraction and she said keep on untill march 7. and today i watched porn and read erotic material. All i remember was attempting to study and memorize lines for a monologue I have to do tomorrow in acting and i was doing fine but then my brain seemed to get jumbled up and i couldn't remember a thing Ihad memorized then i tried to do my english homeowrk but i couldn't understand (unusual, english is my best subject.0 i tried praying-but i was to hyper and my mind wasn't working so i turned on my computer and looked for porn. i'm going to try and convince my mom to get rid of internet.
i'm so stupid.

cause it's all in my head...
by christ4life500 (christ4life500)
at December 30th, 2005 (02:29 am)

so this has been in my mind the last few days. should i get rid of my internet connection at home or not? Why should I get rid of it? well because it is a very strong tempation-it is cleary my weak spot. no matter how hard I try or pray-whenever a trying moment comes into my life- i turn to porn as my escape. in favt today i have spent hours on the internet watching porn. there is this passage in the Bible where jesus says that if your eyes is causeing you to sin, it is better to gouage it out and enter heaven with one eye than to have your whole body thrown into the pits of hell. i have become so desentized that i can't feel god's presence anymore. There this other Bible verse in timothy where paul is telling timothy to flee all youthful lusts. and in the old testament, when joseph was tempted by potiphers wife he ran-why? wouldn't god help him? yes, God would ahve helped him-but sexual tempattion can be so strong that people-even christians don't look to God for help. God's not stupid-he kows that sexual temptation is one of the hardest things to beat.
why should I keep it: i need it for school. weakk argumennt because i spend hours looking at porn-not really helping my school work is it.
I'm afraid-porn has been my escape-without it i will have to face my problems-head on. god is there for me-but I still get scared. i think it's time I start the new year-off rightt. 2006. A new year-a new chance to start over. and after mid-terms a new semester-a new chance to start over. pray fo me.
Thanks to everyone who commented on my last post! It's nice to know that there are people who support me!

doremon [userpic]
A new porn filter, free for home use
by doremon (spacelover_it)
at December 30th, 2005 (02:01 am)

I recently found about a new porn filtering system for both home and business computers.
Right now, it is free for home computers.
If you want to download it, go to:
http://www.k9webprotection.com/index.html

my story
by christ4life500 (christ4life500)
at December 29th, 2005 (05:24 pm)

hello, my name is Naiomi Gonzalez and I am 16 years old and I have been struggling with porn since I was 12 years old.
It started by accident. i didn't mean to watch porn. One night I was flipping through the channels when i saw people having sex. i was not a Christian than and like any pre-teen I was interested in sex so i kept on watching. Every weekend I would sneak to the livingroom (until i got a Tv, which made access much easier) and stay up late watching porn.
at 13 I became a christian and felt like a new person, but every few months I would slip-up and watch porn. (which i would find out later, I was viewing softcore porn)
at 15, i got internet accces in the computer in my room. Big mistake! A new level of porn was reveled to me, hardcore pictures and erotic literature, in addiation to the soft core porn I would watch on TV. but soon the internet had to be canceled because my compter was old and could not support it.
But this past semptember I got a new computer, intertnet capable. These past few months have been the hardest. Softcore porn no longer interests me, so i basically spend all my time online. I have now seen hardcore videos, and erotic stories with audio and have gone into self-gratification. My grades are slipping and my homeowrk is piling up. i go to a competive private school, and I am seen as the "goody-two-shoe, christian girl". i am also on a scholarship-so the pressure is immense. Because my grades are down and my homework is piling up, I get really nervous and anxious and depressed, which causes me to view porn as an escape. but the more I view porn, the farther I fall in school, the more farther i fall in school, the more porn i view. combine that with all the guilt and sadness I feel.
i have tried not watching porn but it only works for a few days. I have joined a website that helps people break free from porn and I have decided to see if one oo fmy friends could set up parental controls on my computer.
My advice- the best way to avoid porn is ti never see it. We have to do somethhing to make porn less abaviable to kids and teenagers. Guys are not th eonly one falling into porn, i'm a girl and I view. porn has effected my views on sex. god made it to be a holy, and loving, experience between two people in love, but i view as nothing but a disgusting, act, that for some strange reason i can't stop viewing.
but i pray that God will help me overcome this.
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